Single Mom Life

Single Mom Writing: The Honest Dating Profile

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For years now I’ve had a desire to hold space for single moms. There’s so much about the experience of raising children on my own and navigating single life I wasn’t prepared for. I was and am thrilled to be a free woman but it’s damn isolating. I know I’m not alone. In that spirit, I give you the first in what I hope will be a long and regular series of writing prompts – Single Mom Writing.

Today’s Writing Prompt
Writing online dating profiles is a unique kind of torture. Today write the profile you wish you could publish. Don’t hold back and ask for what you want because you deserve it, got it?


Dear Potential Suitor,

Who did you vote for?

Sincerely,
A lover of all the people

#kiddingnotkidding

Dear Guy Online,

The Relationship I’m Looking For
I’m a single mom with two daughters. Let’s just cut to the chase. My time is precious AF. If I’m going to take time away from my kids or cut down my time for self-care, you better be a movie loving bookworm who likes to wax poetic about life. Homebody tendencies with a quarterly desire to get out and mingle are a bonus.

I’m fiercely independent but crave the intimacy of a heart to heart, mind to mind connection. Do I want marriage and love? Marriage maybe, love most definitely. Someday. Today I just want a partner in crime who wants to lock lips and spoon. But don’t mistake that for a any kind of fling. Quite the opposite. Some folks might be all “no strings attached”, I’ve been there, done that. I’m no longer built that way. I’m fiercely loyal and demand the same.

While the goal is friendship caught fire, right this moment I’m happy with friendship snuggled warm under a blanket.

What You Need To Know About Me
I’m a city girl with a hippie heart.
Jersey girl gone New England.
I’m on that 9-5 grind but have dreams working their way into the world.
My daughters are my breath.
Let’s skip the small talk. I want to know what you long for and who you want to be in the world. I always want to skip the small talk.
Read here if you want to know more about me.

I love every one but like and trust the ones who earn it.

Things That Are True About You
You’re guided by deep-seated values, a steady moral compass.
Your family and friends are paramount.
You chase your curiosity.
There’s still wonder left in  you.
You have a ferocious drive.
You hold a profound reverence for women.

I haven’t listed nitty gritty details because opposites attract, ya know? And sometimes, the idea of Mr. Perfect is better than Mr. Perfect in the flesh. Like when the world traveling money pants philanthropist Mr. Perfect turns out to be a Lifetime story about a man with multiple wives and multiple lives and maybe a body in his backyard. Did I mention my imagination?

Plus, material things don’t matter to me. It’s what’s at the core of a person that I’m seeking.

You work out? Great. I’m a champion for self-care. You have loads of money? Good for you. Abundance is everyone’s for the taking. Get yours. Fancy car? Spectacular. You can drive. I’ve driven everywhere for the last 3 years.

I won’t measure the next important man in my life by what he has but by who he is and how he approaches the world. 

Sincerely,
Carla

ps. I could very well tell you that if you look like Idris Elba, Michael Fassbender, Mark Ruffalo, or are pretty much Danny Castellano, nothing else matters. Swipe right!!!! What’s at the core of your being DOES NOT MATTER. But I’m super mature and am totally not that shallow. Thought you should know.

pps. I’ve lurked on online dating sites enough to know it ain’t 2002 anymore. Dating is complicated. Let me uncomplicate things – straight up, if you’re one of these open relationship folks? Good for you but keep on walking.


I was going to kick off Single Mom Writing with something a bit more introspective and heartfelt. But life seems heavy these days post election. So I’m leading with this. I’m working on setting up a link feature so you can add your own post. If you don’t have your own blog but want to join in on the fun, leave your writing in the comments.

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